Long weekend, different needs: avoiding another holiday argument
Early May can expose how differently partners imagine a “good break”. One of you may need silence and rest, while the other feels responsible for visiting family, fixing things at home or organising activities. In online couples therapy we treat these differences not as flaws, but as important information about your histories and nervous systems. We explore what each plan symbolises: safety, belonging, competence or freedom. This makes it easier to negotiate instead of automatically labelling one partner as lazy and the other as controlling. Together we practise planning time off with clear agreements so that neither of you has to silently swallow frustration. We also look at how to protect at least a small piece of time dedicated only to your relationship. If long weekends often end with you feeling more distant than before, an online session can help you write a different script for shared rest.
